Get My Ex Back

Do you wonder "how do I get my ex back?"  This article will show you five different strategies to get my ex back.  These are not strategies that can be done in conjunction with one another.  Pick one path and stick to it.

The second path is to be needy.  This is not a recommended path.  When you are needy, you write lots of love letters, pester them with dozens of texts or emails, and call them at least five times a day.  Unless your ex is a real wimp, this will probably turn them off rather than get your ex back.

The alternative to being needy is the second path which is to be available.  If you have some hope that your ex will want you back after you have given them a little bit of space, your best strategy is simply to be available.  Answer their phone calls and emails, give them a shoulder to cry on, and don't harass them about getting back together.  It's okay to go on with your life and date other people during this period, but don't flaunt it in your ex's face.

If you follow the available path, you'll just show up places where your ex is likely to be hanging out.  You'll find occasional excuses to call your ex (but never more than once every few days).  

In this path, you will also send emissaries to him or his friends broaching a reconciliation.  

But if you don't think being available is going to work, you can choose the third path which is to be aggressive about other people.  If you choose the aggressive path, you are going to play on one of mankind's primal urges, namely jealousy.

This third path could also be called "date your ex's best friend" because that is one of the strategies on this path.

What you will want to do is make yourself your ex's dream girl (or guy) and then pursue his friends.  When you show up at places he or she hangs out, you will pay lavish attention to your ex's friends and none whatsoever to him or her.  

When you do land a date with your ex's friend, you should text your ex and ask him what kind of restaurant to make reservations at for your date.  Get in your ex's face with the fact that you are on the market.

As your ex sees that you are a valuable commodity, they will want you back.  Jealousy is a powerful human emotion.

Be aware that playing games like this could backfire.  If you invest a lot of emotion in "tricking" your ex into wanting you and he or she really is over you, you could hurt yourself badly.  Only you can decide whether this strategy is worth the consequences it may cause you.

So, there are three different paths to how to "get my ex back".

Relationship Advice for Men Look at Evolution to Find a Mate

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What is the best relationship advice for men? What should men know if they want a relationship to work for the long haul?

Probably the single biggest piece of relationship advice for men is to stop listening to what women say they want and start observing what women actually display that they want.

How do they display what they want? It is as simple as observing what kind of men they choose.

Women say “I want a man who listens to me.” They choose the man who dominates the conversation. Women say, “I want a guy with a good sense of humor.” They date the guy who has money.

Why do women say they want one thing but actually go out with a guy who is just the opposite? The answer to that question lies in the subconscious motivators for getting together. And, therein lies my relationship advice for men.

The historical, biological reason for men and women to get together is to propagate the species. In other words, just because getting pregnant may be the last thing on her conscious mind, when she evaluates a man at the subconscious level, she’s still looking for a good papa for her children.

Is the good dad someone who listens to her? No, it is someone who will provide for her children. And, the person who can provide for her children is someone who has the confidence to bring home the bacon.

Women need men who can be good providers. While a man can produce thousands of sperm on repeated occasions throughout their adult lives, even into their 90’s, women have about 400 chances of producing a baby. As a result, they are looking for a man who can provide longevity and stability for their babies.

A man who tells a women he is a lawyer and not a paralegal will have a better chance of landing her. That is because she perceives that a lawyer is a better provider for her future children.

But having a good income is not enough. A woman needs to perceive that a man is generous with his resources and will provide for her children. That is why women place such a high value on gifts such as jewelry.

It may also be why the engagement ring must be such a large purchase. When you ask a woman to marry you, you give her a ring, not just because it is traditional and romantic, but because it is a tangible display that you can provide for her and her children.

Further, even though modern humans make money more from their brains than their brawn, women are still programmed to think of strength equaling the ability to provide. That’s why, even when there is evidence to the contrary in the form of a tax return, the woman is hardwired to choose the lineman over the computer geek.

So, the biggest piece of relationship advice for men is to figure out what women need from an evolutionary point of view and give it to her.