What Are The Most Effective Get Him Back Secrets

 If you're going through a breakup that you don't want you might be wondering how you can get back with your ex.  Are there really any "get him back secrets" and if so, what are they?

If you are looking for some relationship secrets I've got good news and I've got bad news. 

The bad news is that there aren't, at least as far as I've ever heard, any secret techniques to get back with your ex.  There are no secret potions or love spells or magic tricks that will bring your ex back crawling on his hands and knees just pleading with you to take him back. 

The good news is that you don't need secrets.  All you need is an easy to follow, simple step by step "road map" that you can use to reconcile with your ex.  If you find a good plan and follow it, even though it may be hard sometimes to stick to, the results that you get might have you believing that it was magical after all!

If you truly want to get back with your ex the first thing you need to do, even though this is going to sound weird, is to stop talking to him.  If you are constantly contacting him this will likely backfire for a few reasons:

1) He won't be able to miss you.  You want him to start to doubt his decision to end the relationship.  He needs to miss the times you spent together and the things you did.  If you're constantly trying to contact him how can he miss you?  

2) If you won't leave him alone you are just becoming an annoyance.  That is not how you want him to think of you, is it?

Another thing you have to avoid is the tendency to want to fix the relationship and change yourself so he will come back.  While it is important for you to understand what qualities you have that might need some work, you should never change who you are just to accommodate someone else.  

If the two of you aren't compatible then it's time for you to move on, no matter how painful it might be.  It's simply not healthy for you to reinvent yourself for every relationship you have and it is a good way to find yourself in one abusive relationship after another. 

And last, but not least, communicate.  That doesn't mean cry, nag, beg or threaten.  That means to have an adult conversation where you can openly and honestly explain to him how you're feeling.  It's also important that you let him tell you how he is feeling too.  This isn't the time to get angry or upset over what he tells you.  This needs to be a 'safe zone' for both of you to honestly express yourself. 

If you think that your relationship really is worth saving and you want " get him back secrets" than follow the list above.  This is an honest and proven way to reconcile with your love.

Do I Need Free Love Spells To Get Him Back

If you've just broken up with your boyfriend or husband and are at the end of your rope trying to get him back you might be at the point where you would consider anything.  If you're asking the question:" Do I need free love spells to get him back?" then you really need to read the rest of this article.

Before you start dabbling in magic there might be a simpler and easier way to go.  Just communicating with him in a calm and rational manner might be all it will take.  At this point in the game an actual  'old fashioned' written letter sent in the mail might be a good way to let him know where you are coming from. 

Texts are just too impersonal.  It's hard to truly explain how you feel with an electronic delivery system.  But sending a letter handwritten by you willl surely get his attention. 

For the letter to be effective you have to make sure that you keep a few points in mind:

1) Don't be negative.  This isn't the time for guilt trips, venting  your anger, or whining about your broken heart.  This is the time to honestly own whatever part you played in the breakup of the relationship.  

Even if most of the blame is his you still had something that you did wrong and regret.  Explain why you did what you did.  Don't try to justify it, just explain what you were thinking at the time and why you took the actions you took. 

2) Don't promise that you'll change.  You should be honest with yourself about anything that you need to work on but that's it.  You arn't going to change yourself and remake yourself for every boyfriend you have.  That's not healthy. But you can and should work on improving yourself.  And you can tell him what you plan to work on and why. 

3)  Talk a little about your life now, without him.  Don't brag about a new guy and try to make him jealous and don't sound all down and whiny.  Just tell him something good.  Not all the details but  just enough to pique his curiosity.  Make sure you end your letter with something positive, something that reminds him of the wonderful, fun loving women he fell in love with.  

You don't have to resort to free love spells to get him back all you need to do is find a way to remind him of how great you are and how great the two of you used to be.  If you can do this and intrigue him all over again you will have a better chance of getting back with your ex.